“Will I ever feel like myself again?”

Live the LIFE You Wish You Already Had

Even if you don’t believe it’s possible

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Thrive after Trauma/Rape/Abuse/Assault

Divorce/End of Relationship

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  Trauma to Wholeness

Divorce to Personal Growth

It’s just not right for you to remain stuck in 

sadness, depression, hopelessness, overwhelm , anxiety, stress, 

     PTSD, fear, guilt, shame, unhappiness, meaninglessness, loneliness.


You were meant for a better life than this. Much better.

   Whether it’s recent or in the past…

You CAN survive being sexually assaulted

You CAN survive abuse of any kind

You CAN survive trauma after an accident

You CAN survive the end of a relationship


You can THRIVE, too (yes really)

“We don’t have to do all of it alone. We were never meant to.”

Brené Brown

The Discovery Call is the way to discover who YOU could be and become in partnership with Jan as your coach

How do I know you can Thrive from STUCKness?How do I know you can Thrive after a marital or any big break-up?

How do I know you can Thrive despite the atrocities you’ve experienced?

Because I’ve been there. 

And got out of there. 

With professional help.

I got divorced. Got professional help.

I was raped. Never thought I could live with myself again. Got professional help.


It took a while. And then… 


I enrolled in graduate school and earned an M.A. in Counseling Psychology 

to become a professional therapist/counselor myself.

I knew I was meant to help others thrive when they couldn’t quite figure out how. 

Just the way I did.

Now, I’m a certified professional coach.

I love it.


You deserve a coach who’s been there.

A Trauma-Experienced Coach and Trauma-Informed Coach in one. 

Jan is simply the best. She goes the extra mile for her clients! She really takes the time to get to know you and what you want….

Nate S

Learn the difference between Trauma-Experienced and Trauma-Informed Coaching

What you can look forward to:

Feeling like yourself again…or better

Transformational positive change in your Self

Knowing you have a future you can look forward to

Finding your Purpose in life if you haven’t

Being happy to be who you are 

Feeling comfortable with yourself

Broadening your experiences with eagerness

Enjoying good times with friends…and making new ones

Jan is simply the best. She goes the extra mile for her clients! She really takes the time to get to know you and what you want….

Nate S

Learn the difference between Trauma-Experienced and Trauma-Informed Coaching

What is “Survival” anyway?

  Survival can mean many things… 

It can mean barely breathing,

  or, by definition, you can be “alive but barely”, or simply “not dead”.

Suffering from an assault…Physical, Sexual or Emotional, recently or in the past,

   that won’t go away, or has been reawakened.

Feeling like a stranger to yourself, always watching and waiting for the other shoe to drop. 

Feeling like a victim.

Managing in a “just okay” relationship…

    or an abusive one and you don’t know how to handle it. 

Or maintaining in a job in which you’re not fulfilled,

      but if you let go of it, you fear you’ll lose your “anchor”.

I’ve walked in those shoes.

I know what it feels like.

How it feels to be a victim.  How it feels to be suddenly single.

    Break Through the remains of unspeakable trauma, divorce, stuckness…

      …To the Thriving experience of enjoying Life and feeling Fulfilled.

Imagine yourself there.
    It can happen.

Jan is confidential and non-judgemental.

Post Client

Transform your life.


“Most of us have two lives: the life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance”

– Steven Pressfield.

Recovery from Rape, Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault

You had no idea anyone lived after this.
Or maybe you did. But it wouldn’t happen
to you.
Hit? Punched? Belittled?
It’s all Violence.
Afraid to leave? Afraid to talk?
You are called a “survivor”, but it sure
doesn’t feel like you’re surviving.
You’re not dead, but it doesn’t feel like
you’re living.
It’s certainly not the way life used to be.
Who am I now?
Get yourself back…and better than before.
Click to It’s Easy to Get Started

Adjustment to Divorce, End of Significant Relationship, Recently or in the past, Feel Good about yourself

You wanted to get out of this relationship
SO badly.
You knew you didn’t belong together and
had to separate.
Who knew it would be so hard? You were
even the person who wanted it.
I thought I’d feel better, by now. OR…
You didn’t want to get out of the
relationship. What was so bad about
fighting every day? You didn’t think it was
this serious.
What about the kids? How can I explain
it…and care for them when I can’t care for
myself? I don’t want them to hate their
(other parent). Maybe I do, really.
It feels like a death occurred.

The stakes are high if you don’t do something soon.

Your friends know something’s up but fear talking about it…except to each other.

Your boss sees, too, and you know it won’t be long before it’s mentioned. 

Your kids notice a change in you. They’re bewildered.

Your numbness is moving into depression, slowly but surely.

Your emotions are strained and you’re snapping at people.

You may develop PTSD, or you may have it already.

Gain Confidence and Control


There is much inside you that is yearning to get out. 

And to be shared. To lead to your life betterment…and the world’s. 

Working with me will be:

Totally safe,

With total confidentiality,

While being totally respected,

And, most important: You will be totally heard.

My approach is solution-focused with positive psychology principles. 

Recognizing resilience, fostering strengths, and building more. 

You’ll become more confident about

amplify positive outcomes and opportunities for growth

Two things I know for sure:

You were not created to simply exist. 

You are more resilient than you think. 

Let’s get going on the life you wish you already had.


It’s easy to get started:


Book a free

discovery call

We’ll talk about what moved you to get in touch and how you’d like your life – and your Self – to feel. We’ll talk about how we would work together to have the life you wish you already had.* I’ll answer your questions about coaching and about me.


We Develop

a plan

We’ll develop a plan to reach your desired
outcome. If you don’t know what that is, we’ll discover it.
We’ll watch your progress, enjoy the process, and adjust it along the way.


Live your

Best Life

Celebrate your success!


Have you been afraid to wish?
Is something stopping you from wishing?
You’re not alone. Many people are afraid to wish.
All the more reason to find out what’s stopping you
…and work on having your life work for you
by working with me.

Start living your LIFE again.

Or for the first time 

Work in partnership with the Trauma-Experienced and Trauma-Informed Coach

who knows what it’s like
from the inside out.

To help you get from where you are now …… to where you want to be:
…A Thriving Person with a LIFE to enjoy,
the Courage, the Strength and the Confidence to live that life the way you want it,
and Be the person you‘ve wished you could be.
Be The most YOU you can be.

You owe it to yourself.
And to the world.

About Jan, Survival to Thrival Coach

“How, What, Why do we See, Hear, Feel”. It was my first film. I was just 16. It won a national award,
I’ve always been into understanding and helping people understand themselves.

One Christmas Eve, I got engaged.
Two days later, I was raped.
Two days after that, I was in therapy.
I was so helped by my therapist, I went to Graduate School to help others.

The rapist remained at large as I emerged from “jail”. After two trials, he was sentenced to 400 years in jail.
I earned my master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and started my practice.
I helped victims of rape, abuse, spousal abuse, worked with divorcees, and those who wished they were.
My divorce groups turned into personal growth groups.
Then I entered a divorce group for myself.
Clients called or came back, even years later, to thank me and give me positive feedback about their lives.
I am passionate and practical.
I do not ignore the negative, yet I come from the positive, building on strengths.
Strengths you already have, strengths you may not realize you have, and strengths I will help you build.
I am blessed with the empathy I naturally have.
I am humbled by the kudos I’ve been given.
Most of all, I am privileged to have helped many people for so many years.

Will I have the privilege of working with you next?

Let’s walk together and get you where you want to go.
Out of the sludge
Into the life you wish you already had. Now.

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It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.                       -Denis Waitley