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“Will I ever feel like myself again?”

Live the LIFE You Wish You Already Had

Even if you don’t believe it’s possible

I guide people whose past trauma of abuse or sexual assault   has not dissipated over time, who are beyond barely surviving, who are ready for the final stride to becoming Empowered

to finally break through

with Courage, Strength and Confidence

to a promising and fulfilling life. 

You can THRIVE.

Here’s how we’ll do it together…


It’s just not right for you to remain stuck in
sadness, hopelessness, overwhelm, anxiety, stress,
PTSD, fear, guilt, shame, unhappiness, meaninglessness, loneliness.
You were meant for a better life than this. Much better.

You’ve gotten through the initial effects of trauma:
Sexual Assault/Abuse/Incest/Violence
an Untenable Relationship…

BUT…You’re still reeling from the lingering effects.
You want to go beyond ”just okay”.
You realize there’s something more.

ABSOLUTELY! You were meant for a better life than this. Much better.


Even though it’s in the past….
You CAN survive being sexually assaulted
You CAN survive abuse of any kind       
You CAN survive trauma of any kind



You CAN THRIVE, too (yes, really)

“We don’t have to do all of it alone. We were never meant to.”

Brené Brown

The Discovery Call is the way to discover who YOU could be and become in partnership with Jan as your coach

How do I know you can Thrive from STUCKness?
How do I know you can Thrive after a marital or any big break-up?
How do I know you can Thrive despite the atrocities you’ve experienced?

Because I’ve been there.
And got out of there.
With professional help.

I got divorced. Got professional help.
I was raped. Never thought I could really live again. Got professional help.

It took a while. And then…

I enrolled in graduate school and earned an M.A. in Counseling Psychology
and became a professional therapist/counselor myself.
I knew I was meant to help others thrive when they couldn’t quite figure out how.
Just the way I did.

Now, I’m a Certified Professional Life Coach.
I love it.

You deserve a coach who’s been there.
A Trauma-Experienced Coach and Trauma-Informed Coach in one.

Learn the difference between
Trauma-Experienced and
Trauma-Informed coaching
“Jan is simply the best! She goes the extra mile for her clients! She really takes the time to get to know you and what you want…”   – Nate S.

What you can look forward to:

Feeling like yourself again…or better

Transformational positive change in your Self

Knowing you have a future you can look forward to

Finding your Purpose in life if you haven’t

Being happy to be who you are

Feeling comfortable with yourself

Broadening your experiences with eagerness

Enjoying good times with friends…and making new ones

Jan is confidential,
And is non-judgmental.
– Poet client

“Most of us have two lives: the life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance”

– Steven Pressfield.

Uncover the possibilities

What is “Survival” anyway?

  Survival can mean many things…

It can mean barely breathing,
or, by definition, you can be “alive but barely”, or simply “not dead”.
Suffering from an assault…Physical, Sexual or Emotional,
that won’t go away, or has been reawakened.
Feeling like a stranger to yourself, always watching and waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Feeling like a victim.
Managing in a “just okay” relationship…
or an abusive one and you don’t know how to handle it.
Or maintaining in a job in which you’re not fulfilled,
but if you let go of it, you fear you’ll lose your “anchor”.

I’ve walked in those shoes.
I know what it feels like.
Break Through (a visual here?) the remains of unspeakable trauma, stuckness…
      …To the Thriving experience of enjoying Life and feeling Fulfilled.
Imagine yourself there.
It can happen.

Transform Your Life

The stakes are high if you don’t do something soon.


  • Your friends know something’s up but fear talking about it…except to each other.
  • Your boss sees, too, and you know it won’t be long before it’s mentioned.
  • Your kids notice.. They’re bewildered.
  • Your numbness is moving into depression, slowly but surely.
  • Your emotions are strained and you’re snapping at people.

     Gain Confidence and Control

There is much inside you that is yearning to get out.
And to be shared. To lead to your life betterment…and the world’s.

Working with me will be:
Totally safe,
With total confidentiality,
While being totally respected,
Most important: You will be totally heard.

My approach is solution-focused with positive psychology principles.
Recognizing resilience, fostering strengths, and building more.

Two things I know for sure:
You were not created to simply exist.
You are more resilient than you think.

Let’s get going on the life you wish you already had.

It’s easy to get started:



We’ll talk about what moved you to get in touch and how you’d like your life – and your Self – to feel.
We’ll talk about how we would work together to have the life you wish you already had. *

I’ll answer your questions about coaching and about me.



We’ll develop a plan to reach your desired outcome.
If you don’t know what that is, we’ll discover it.

We’ll watch your progress,

enjoy the process, and adjust it along the way.



Celebrate Your SUCCESS!

* Have you been afraid to wish that your life could be better?
Is something stopping you from wishing?
You’re not alone. Many people are afraid to wish.
All the more reason to find out what’s stopping you
…and work on having your life work for you

                                                            by working with Jan.                                                                 

Start living your LIFE again.
… or for the first time.

Work in partnership with the Trauma-Experienced and Trauma-Informed Coach

…who knows what it’s like
from the inside out.

To help you get from where you are now …… to where you want to be:
…A Thriving Person with a LIFE to enjoy,
the Courage, the Strength and the Confidence to live that life the way you want it,
and Be the person you‘ve wished you could be.
Be The most YOU you can be.

You owe it to yourself.
And to the world.

About Jan, Survival to Thrival Coach

“How, What, Why do we See, Hear, Feel”.  It was my first film.  It won a National Award. I was only 16.

I had always been into understanding and helping people understand themselves even then…and never stopped/


One day, I got engaged.
Two days later, I was raped.
Two days after that, I was in therapy.

I was so helped by my therapist, I applied to Graduate School to help others.
The rapist remained at large as I emerged from my own “jail”.

After he was found, and after I appeared in two trials, he was sentenced to 376 years in prison…

…as I earned my master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and started my practice.

I helped victims of trauma: rape, abuse, spousal abuse, worked with divorcees, and those who wished they were. 

They became strong, self-confident, in control of their lives, and because of their becoming empowered, took action to make their own lives the way they wanted. 

Clients called or came back, even years later, to thank me and give me positive feedback about their lives.

I am passionate and practical.
I do not ignore the negative, yet I come from the positive, building on strengths.
Strengths you already have, strengths you may not realize you have, and strengths I will help you build.

I am blessed with the empathy I naturally have.
I am humbled by the kudos I’ve been given.
Most of all, I am privileged to have helped many people for so many years.

Will I have the privilege of working with you next?
Let’s walk together and get you where you want to go.
Out of the sludge
Into the life you wish you already had. Right now.

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Free 25 min Discovery call with Jan:

Contact: Jan Stern, MA


+1 – (727)-592-8777


It’s not who you are that holds you back,

it’s who you think you’re not.         

Denis Waitley